Abnormal

Most of the men who are utterly devoted to me today would not be in my life at all if I practiced relationship in the “normal” way.

If I were “dating for marriage” I would not have nearly as many husbands actually showing up for me in the here and now.

This “normal” way prioritizes the delusion of how it “should” go, and then if it goes another way, out with the bathwater, out with the baby.

So many of the men who show up for me regularly would have early on been considered “inconsistent” by the standards of “normal” relating. If I were following that program, I would have booted these men from my life.

Instead, when they drifted away, I allowed it. When they returned, I warmly welcomed them every time. These men are worthy of my time and attention. That’s all I need to know.

I stay in my life and out of the delusion of what we might become, and then we can become what we are, through a series of here and now interactions that are too good not to repeat again and again.

This simple way revolutionizes dating, and ripples into every part of life, as we learn to attend to the here and now, what’s happening and how it feels, the sacred distribution of limited attention. If we don’t like how it feels, that’s another sacred experience, and what ELSE is happening here that I might have been trained to tune out or never trained to perceive in the first place?

Thats what we go into in Something Like This.