Accommodating Intolerance

Expressing intolerance is an accommodation that facilitates our tolerance of something undesirable.

If we can vent how we feel about it, we settle back in, the steam no longer at a bursting pressure. If we can declare a change is coming, there is no action required for now. The current damage is done, and we have satisfied ourselves once again investing in our own promise, "never again."

Tolerance is a type of accommodation.

It's hard to see many accommodations for what they are, because many accommodations pretend to be limits, wear a mask of intolerance.

Remember, you're a tricksy little human!

Remember, you'll be satisfied just to be expressed and heard, and in the lull of that pleasure you'll hear yourself say the same things over and over again.

This is why I say, choose what you do. When you find you've done it, choose it—because expressing your resistance to it, your resentment to yourself, your intolerance of it,

that's how you begin the cycle of accommodating it once again.