Accommodating What Is

If I told you my client is 30 minutes late to an hourlong appointment, and that I'm still going to do a full hour with her, even knowing she might take another break in the middle of that appointment, you might think I'm boundaryless and crazy. Who can run a business like that?

 Now what if I tell you she's a breastfeeding mother of a young infant? Does it make sense why I set aside more time for her? Do you think she deserves it now?

If so, this is the part of you that's attached to the need and scarcity economy, to capitalism and colonialism and their clocks that count down to the second. 

If the baby makes you feel better about this arrangement, that's the part of you that needs an excuse you deem worthy to let someone be late. Some part of you wants to see need and scarcity before you'll provide accommodation. 

 All I require is ongoing communication, and I receive that in many ways. Sometimes I have a sense that a client needs time, and wait patiently. They're usually texting me for adjustments if they need them, but not always. I can often feel it when they forgot (though this is rare) and whether I should call or just cancel and move on with my other things. 

I harness these systems of time and communication to serve the feminine and NEVER compromise the feminine for the sake of some arbitrary element of the system. 

My own feminine is the experience that I am having—I do not sacrifice that experience to get angry or resent someone who is not there at the moment they said they would be, or who did not "communicate" in a specific masculine way. 

I go to the feminine-knowing FIRST and see what's up, and she shows me how to harness these systems to serve her, in me, my client, and the world. I am intimate with the world, in that I want to be in agreement with what is happening. 

The more accommodations I make, the more I see important things filling themselves into the gaps created. Clients who want to switch appointment times reach out within minutes of each other, not consciously knowing that someone else wants the direct complement to what they want. It reaffirms my faith in the way things always work themselves out. 

I get to be at ease, in agreement with the inarguably-correct unfolding. I get to receive what is happening and be at peace within it. 

I do not require knowledge that a little baby is avoiding her nap today (though it's adorable). My client is the little baby I'm serving, and I don't expect their needs or schedule to be more predictable or convenient than a real little baby.