Being What I Judge

I cannot make a judgment of another without enacting that exact judgment myself.

Knowing this, my judgments are pings to find where I am enacting something I’m judging and prove how easy it would be for them to stop doing that thing by releasing it in myself.

There is no such thing as a judgment which I might hold that I am not doing myself.

Say, for example, I judge "he's using black and white thinking and that will prevent our progress."

I ask myself, where is my thinking black and white? Where might my black and white thinking prevent our progress?

I find I have black and white thinking about black and white thinking. If his thinking is black and white, I believe that means he is stuck. Full stop.

I believe he has to stop having black and white thinking in order for us to move forward. It's a simple, black and white situation.

When I release my black and white thinking about his black and white thinking, I see the way his thinking is now, and I am open to seeing any other way his communication might be.

I might find a way where his black and white thinking is an asset to the progress I want to make, when I drop the black and white idea that he might have helpful and unhelpful ways of thinking.

He has A WAY of thinking with which I might harmonize to collaborate with him. If I am not willing to harmonize with his way of thinking, it is not truly HIM I want to collaborate with.

If I maintain my black and white thinking that his black and white thinking is a problem then that type of thinking is still running the system, still running in the system.

Even if he drops it, I am holding it.

I am the one.

I am the one whose grasp I can release.

I am the one who is stuck with what I'm grasping, or with the effort of grasping, or with the fist closed because it is grasping.

I am the one who can do something about this.

I am the one who can respond in a never-before-seen way.

I am the one to interrupt the pattern, not to observe it, criticize it, or condemn it, but to play with it, to turn it on its head, to alchemize to love.

I am the one.