Claiming Expression
With space, time, intention, and practice, reactivity becomes expression.
Reactivity lashes out according to emotional intensity and then tells a story to explain and defend the actions.
Expression simply feels and shows what's happening.
It is not for the feminine to constantly reference her feelings, to describe them, to communicate them. This is a masculinization of experience that makes women more convenient to men who want to know with their minds what is happening. This is the request from men who don't want to connect into their own primal experience, their own feminine knowing, or who don't want to do the work of translation ask that women use language to share her feelings.
Women demand this from men in the first place, empowering "conscious" men to claim their part in the spoils by valuing this as a practice. She says "I know what he wants and he just won't TELL me." As if he has not communicated in the way only she could understand, as if she has not understood.
It is important that we all know how to do the identification and the describing of emotion, sensation, thought, belief, behavior. Knowing these distinctions is crucial.
It is not ultimately important that we verbally share this information with anyone else, and sharing it with those it seems to be "about" is actually more likely to be damaging than helpful.
My inner process gets me to the place where I am able to feel and express what is happening on an embodied level.
I have claimed expression from reactivity, and now my expression of emotion is palpable and palatable, it is pleasant and easy to be around, there is nothing to fix.
It is for the feminine to BE feeling, such that she is palpable to others.
Explaining feelings is a valuable stage on the journey to being willing to feel them. But once you are willing to feel them, what is there to explain? What does it matter why or even what you are feeling? It's here.
Feel it in your body while the other bodies are around.