Clustering Compatibility

At the moment of this writing, my lover is teaching my roommate to punch and she is teaching him stretches to heal his hips, and I am claiming a minute to spend in the business of devotion.

Compatibility is the exponential way of building relationship and community, because as you add compatible people to your life, they begin to cluster.

They turn out to be compatible with each other and you turn out to be compatible with their people. Life fills up, yet new connections feel exciting rather than intimidating. They offer a resource, rather than representing a threat.

Your time is claimed, but it's claimed for you to be exactly who you are in any and every moment, and it's claimed by those who are committed to celebrating how you show up.

That's what it means to be safe and to belong in community. It does NOT mean you have a certain experience, or that you like the experience you have, it means that your experience matters. It means that you're having it with people who really want to have it with you and are curious to know what it's like to be you.