Codependency Prevention

Codependency is relating with the goal of earning—love, belonging, validity, importance, necessity.

Earning behaviors cloud and obscure our actual receiving of love. (So long as we attempt to earn, we experience all love coming in as earned love rather than experiencing love coming to us freely.)

We know, somewhere in us, that giving and receiving love feels good, but that's not our lived experience of it.

In codependency, we are addicted to the achievement of behaviors from others which we associate with connection, and, striving for that achievement, we starve for actual connection.

This is not about the availability of connection; whether connection is available or not, codependency will prevent us from experiencing it.