Collaboration and Will
Collaboration is a willful act.
The more I control, the less respect I show for the other’s will, the less collaboration I experience from them.
Control is a lot like love-earning. Maybe I could say love earning is a form of control.
All the control I exert on the world and on my loved ones reinforces my experience that control is required.
When my control works, it's clear my control was required.
When my control does not work, it's clear I should have controlled everything better.
The less I believe in others' willingness and desire to support me and collaborate with me, the more I control.
The more I control, the less I experience that others desire to support me and collaborate with me, and the more I control.
Control prevents my experience of others being generous with me, wanting to collaborate with me, wanting to support me, wanting to participate.
It does not prevent their feelings of generosity and optin, but it still prevents my ability to believe in that narrative, to experience that that is what's happening.
Surrender can feel terrifying, yet does control not live in fear of that fear?
Fear is not optional. No emotional experience is optional. ANYTHING might happen, in this life.
How do I opt to operate in fear and in any other emotional experience?
Who do I want to be, and what context do I want to offer those I encounter in this one and only life?
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“When my control works, it's clear my control was required.
When my control does not work, it's clear I should have controlled everything better.
The less I believe in others' willingness and desire to support me and collaborate with me, the more I control.
The more I control, the less I experience that others desire to support me and collaborate with me, and the more I control.”
This literally describes my WHOLE LIFE until I started reading your work, Hannah. Thank you.
I'm a generous human being, so we'll figure this out! I'm here for the highest overall good.