Delight in Desire
"If you're not happy with what you have now, what makes you think you'd be happier with more?"
The first time I heard this quote, it floored me.
This simple question asked me to examine the weave of my desires and my having, and my relationship to that weave.
Sure, there's the obvious, almost automatic argument, "I need more! I need [xyz], to be happy." But how many of us can really make that argument with a straight conscience?
This quote made me reflect on what "more" really means. It means more of MY RELATING STYLE, my way of having, more of the way I relate to what I have.
It made me recognize that my desire IS part of what I have now. If I am not happy in desire, what makes me think I'd be happy having the thing I currently desire, when it would not stop me from being in desire for the next new thing?
This week's teaching for Feminine Cycle is about Wanting.
(You can catch the recording of last week's call on Releasing in the course.)
Wanting is the one part of the cycle that can stretch on and on, if you practice lack and deprivation rather than desire and nourishment.
Wanting is the stage which prepares us to receive, have, and release all that comes into our lives. Desire itself is an experience we can and do want, receive, have, and release, because this cycle applies fractally, even to each phase of itself.
As humans, our life force demands that we desire. We desire our next breath, the next day, the next several years.
I'd even argue that the closest we can get to desirelessness is actually an intense desire to experience exactly what is happening.
We think we desire things and people and circumstances, but at the end of the day, the only things we ever get are experiences.
The way we are in our wanting is foundational to our experience of everything in our lives, because desire is inevitable, insatiable, guaranteed to show up eventually, no matter how satisfying or "stable" we create our lives to be.
Being in a delightful practice around my desires has eliminated my experience of being in need, and quelled my codependent tendency to leverage my experience of lack to gain connection.
My own delightful relationship with my desire makes it easier to leave others in their own desire, to drop people-pleasing and give others the gift I know their wanting to be, when I am not available to fulfill their desires.
Most of all, my understanding of the four types of desire helps me to calibrate my sense of success, wholeness, and satiety, as my infinite desire to participate collides with the finite limits of what is possible in this human experience.
Join us in Feminine Cycle for this powerful teaching and so much more, and get on board with the natural flux of all that's in flow.