Don't Just Protect
Effective boundaries don't just protect, they connect.
What is it that you have when you are NOT surrounded by threats?
Safety in solitude? Is that what you really want?
The absence of threat is only the precursor to the presence of loving connection.
Effective boundaries are ones that go beyond protecting me, they serve to connect me with those around me in ways that are perpetually safe and delicious to me and everyone else involved.
These are the boundaries that are like skin, like clothing, like a rain jacket. They keep me luxuriously comfortable in all conditions I might opt-into, they are my interface with the world.
These boundaries facilitate my comfort and enable my sensations as I interact with the infinite offering before me. These boundaries arise from my desire and empowerment.