Double Standards
If you really want to hold higher standards, double them.
Hold yourself to all your own rules and all their rules as well.
Hold a double standard for yourself.
A double standard is a beautiful tool of discernment.
If it's hard to hold your own rules around them, that's a signal for nourishment and distancing, better boundaries.
If it's hard to hold their rules as well as your own, that's a signal of incompatibility of standards.
If it's hard to hold their rules because you don't like them, that's a sign of missing devotion. You do not adore, admire, and respect them and their way.
In a connection that indicates closeness, with compatible standards, with high devotion in the form of admiration, adoration, respect, and appreciation, it is easy to exquisitely hold both my own standards and those of the other.
I want to hold them.
I believe in them.
I have all the resourcing and nourishment I need to hold them.
This devotional discernment reveals the most exquisite connections, which represent the highest standards I've ever experienced in relationship.
My standards are high because I DOUBLED THEM.