If you are really in your body, and really in an open heart, shit's about to get weird.
You are going to start feeling erotic draws to many people.
Perhaps this is already happening.
Your eros will reach insistently for people, and they will not fall within your "type" as far as romance and sexuality are concerned. You will know early on that this is not your partner, but that will not always make the desire for that connection go away or tame down.
That's because it's EROS, which is an entire continuum of the ways in which our bodies are homes for other bodies on the planet, it is not the false-distinction of sexuality nor the box of romance nor the abstraction of "a relationship."
We are at the fever pitch, where the unsustainable crumbles and lays bare the undeniable.
Interdependence is a simple fact. We can only pretend we can live without it so long. Then we reach for it, or we reach for death. We weave or we leave.
I'm sure you've noticed the suicides. I certainly have.
Weave or leave, only we've forgotten more patterns of weaving that we may ever know again.
Still, it's time to clumsily discover some, some that are other than romantic-dyad-partner.
It's been a long time of us doing friendship and familyship in an erotically starved way, separating our skin from others' skin, separating our bodies from others' bodies, disentangling our lives from others' lives. Respecting their space, respecting their bubble, respecting our way right out of others' lives.
I'm honestly not all that into multiple concurrent loverships, but I would simply die if there were not an array of humans whose naked skin presses on my naked skin in intimate and tender ways, with no abstraction, expectation, or sexual charge, simply because we are humans who love one another.
How do we come to live this way? By exploring outside of the boxes we were taught.
How do we stay safe without boxes?
That's what I'm teaching next week on Abundantly Boundaried LIVE.
There is NO RIGHT FORM of relationship, and no form more important than the others, so we need a way of discovering the unique form of relationship which honors each individual connection.
WEAVE OR LEAVE.
oh holy hallelujah i am literally eating up your teachings on what it means to really inhabit that village Eros intelligence.
something is softening in me as I really let myself go yeah. that’s it. right there. that’s the ache. how very human of me to try to make personal that which is so collective and everyone’s.
What I love about your words is that they cut right through the inbetween distraction vortexes of notatantra polarity bullshit and right in to the heart of it -
the village. interbeing.
Your words feel like a highly practical and bloody seriously scientific application of matrilineal relationship studies & a gorgeous hat tip to the myths that remind us about the truth of Eros.
Gosh darnit.
& it’s the one ‘teaching’ that we actually get to feel in order to absorb it. It’s a gem to the ones who’ve snapped out of illusion & it most likely goes right over the heads of anyone who doesn’t even know there might be an illusion to be inside of.
Thankyou for this 🌹