Ending Conflict
If you're having frequent conflict with someone, and you’d like to shift the pattern, check if you are agreeing with them.
After each of their statements, express how you thoroughly agree with what you agree with about what they are saying.
The nature of this statement is "yes, thank you."
Notice if you are impatient, waiting for your turn to talk. Notice if it feels like an emergency in your body to correct what is flawed about what they are saying.
That sense of emergency causes you to assert your disagreements and corrections,
and your disagreements and corrections create the same sense of emergency in the other person's body, to correct what you're correcting, to fill in what you're missing about what they're saying.
Then you're suddenly in a conflict.
Once this cycle is underway, agreement is not allowed—only argument is allowed.
The first one to agree, in spite of the unspoken pattern, is the winner, because they initiate the return to connection.
Learn to practice powerful peace on the Village Principles Masterclass next Tuesday.
