Femme AF
I am not feminine.
Nor am I masculine.
I am whole.
My wholeness is a compilation of wholes in relationships which create larger wholes. My wholeness has the integrity of Inner Union
The larger whole of Devotional Partnership is one in which I *get to* occupy the feminine role. I do not stop being whole in myself, I, as a whole, become part of a larger whole.
Disconnecting from the larger whole, I go back to being whole.
While I am in this larger whole, though, I get to skew the whole that I am into practices that most delight me. It's the same way that partner dancers can hold hands and lean out farther than their own center, part of a larger whole with a different center.
When I have discerned and invested such that I am participating in a whole which is compatible and generative, I can skew my wholeness to prefer practices and experiences which delight me.
This is the devotional energetic available in relationship, which I’ve experienced and lived in long-term harmony--while we are together we no longer have to be everything.
This is a way we ballast and privilege one another, allowing each other to exist only in our excellence/preferred relational role. When it’s done via compatibility and devotion, REAL MAGIC occurs on a life-wide scale.
The key is neither of us “needs” this. That’s why it isn’t a transaction. We do it from for and because of love, devotion, and desire. We orient to prosperity rather than sufficiency.
Why would we, already sufficient beings, expect to add something generative into our lives and then find ourselves merely sufficient or, worse, depleted?
The love stories have lied to us, disempowered our posture in relationships, crafted an unsustainable narrative structure on which to pin eternal yearning.
The love stories have taught us to use the energy generated by loving connection to pick apart that connection, workshop it, and solve "problems" within it.
When we live fully in reality, when we relate entirely from love and devotion and compatibility, we reclaim our sufficiency and orient toward partnerships which represent generative resources. The energy pours into the generative channels we have already established in our lives, mostly flowing OUT.
We recognize that the only problem we can have is when we try to source nourishment from somewhere it is not available, and we stop mislabeling this as a problem with the source.
When we live fully in reality, the life we build is complex and nuanced enough to put generated energy to good use, to use that serves the experiences of all involved in the relationship and all tangential to it.
Participating in a larger structure is how I leverage my wholeness to serve on a larger scale.
That is feminine, or masculine, as fuck.
