Follow Devotion through the Village

Something Like This has opened participants' eyes to the village all around them.

I offered Damsel in Delight as a post-portal support structure. Today a participant talked about being on dating apps, and it reminded me of something I wanted to address there and with others.

We follow Devotion THROUGH the village.

Dating apps are a process of elimination, by which you are offered seemingly infinite options, EVERY single person in your parameters, as if the parameters of similarity they match are any indication of compatibility.

Something Like This is a strategy of attention which is additive. We begin whole and ask, "what will I ADD to this exquisite experience via the placement and payment of my sacred finite time, energy, and attention?"

There's nothing wrong with using dating apps. I found a husband of our village on a dating app last year.

I also found about 20 other men who were kind and good and fine and simply not husbands for our village.

I also did not find MY husband.

I was new in town and building my village, and I knew that there would be lots of neutral, gracious, sweet, simple incompatibillity. I knew that there *might* be compatibility, but I had time to spare, no attachment to finding it, no disappointment with the gush of incompatibility, because I expected exactly that.

Now there is no time to spare. My life is full and continuously filling with aligned humans. I found a critical mass of threads of my Devotional Village, and now I travel through the village exclusively.

I have trustworthy channels via which aligned connection enters my life.

It is somewhat jarring, actually, when I find myself in an interaction with someone who is not in the village. Jarring for me, to feel the system of someone who represses their innate expression. Jarring for them, as I watch my love and the experience I cocreate with them rearrange their ideas of what is possible. This has happened even in minor interactions, the person serving me food in Brooklyn, for example.

Even if you have a village of ONE, you can travel through the village to find the others who know how and commit to loving how you love.

The more village you have, the easier this gets. The more whole, resonant and of-integrity your practices of relating become, the more doors swing wide to welcome all you are.