Friendly Boundaries
It is such a relief to have friendly boundaries.
Having friendly boundaries means that I get to remain friends with the world and everyone in it.
I don't say no to bad offers.
I don't get any bad offers.
If something isn't worthy of my time, it's simple, sweet, probably delicious, and simply not as compelling as other things I could do with my time. THANK YOU, no.
I know it's not worth my attention if I keep forgetting about it, I know it is not worth my energy if I don't feel compelled to eagerly say yes, I know it is not worth my time if I can't find time to respond.
I know that my time, energy, and attention are stewarded along the lines of my personal preference, and their distribution is not an evaluation of anything on offer. It is not a value judgment if something is unworthy *of my attention.*
When my boundaries were based on NO, on what I didn't want, I was fielding offers with icky flavors, thinking a lot about how I *should* say yes, saying "no, because..."
My boundaries *had to be* a value judgement, because I could only say no if it was objectively a bad situation.
I left relationships when I was saying things like "enough is enough!" or "I can't take it anymore!"
I said yes unless I had a "good reason" to say no.
Without a personally curated standard for my own nourishment, I was pressuring myself to take what the world seemed to be offering me. I was looking for good reasons to say no, and boy oh boy did I find them.
Now I'm looking for good reasons to say YES, and I'm so busy with that I never find a reason to say no, it simply doesn't receive enough of my time, energy, or attention to gain momentum unless I have powerful reasons to say yes.
These are the nuances of manifestation, and why your intentional manifestation depends on your attentional discipline.
These are the structures of effortless boundaries, how orienting to your yes replaces the need to say no.
When my toes curl, I say yes.
I say no with my body, with my being, by not being there.
