Good Boundaries, Better Boundaries
Good boundaries stop the experiences you don't want, like the reflex to flinch away from a fast-arriving hand.
Better boundaries are ones that help you to have the experience you DO want, like the impulse to touch a soft-looking sweater.
In advance of this holiday, you might be arming yourself with strategies to protect yourself from your family's wayward political talk and intrusive opinions about your life. I'm glad you have that plan, and I totally trust you with it.
But why interact with your family at all if you don't hope to or plan to enjoy their good qualities?
You only interact with them because there's something worthy there for you. You deserve boundaries that help you receive that WHILE preventing the unpleasant.
With Abundantly Boundaried, you will learn boundaries which curate your entire experience, centering your interactions in what you DO WANT.
Boundaries about what we don't want, what hurts us, what we are not available for have their place and time. They also ruin Thanksgiving when we drop them like a bomb. They create awkward silences and prime others to defend themselves and push against us.
When they are the only tool in our toolkit, it sometimes feels safest to not show up at all.
Boundaries of protection and prevention create space, but they do not help us cultivate comfortable closeness.
Better boundaries are effortless, lived, and infrequently described. They do not require explanation or leave any space for feedback.
Better boundaries are about constantly saying "yes, thank you" to what we like and want to receive, and saying every no with our bodies, by not being there.
Abundantly Boundaried is designed for you to read in about 90 minutes, with supportive affirmations you can download and take with you anywhere. It will serve you the skills and frames you need to *actually* enjoy yourself and your time with your family this holiday season.
Gift yourself better boundaries this holiday season!
