Good Enough
Having to be "good enough" to be loved creates a shadow where we are unwilling to see anything in ourselves we believe will be deemed unlovable.
Even if a loving person is attempting to lovingly show it to us. Seeing the "not enough" seems like a threat to love's security, giving someone a reason to cast us aside.
We fight to say it isn't true, that we ARE worthy of love. When unworthiness was never an accusation offered by the other.
In the practice of Devotional Love, we cultivate humility, outside of the orbit of pride and shame. Our lovability is intrinsically related to, inextricably woven with our limitations as well as our excellences. Limitations are the places where love may enter our lives, and are therefore essential to our lovability, aka others' ability to love us in ways we can feel and receive.
We resolve judgments and condemnations of our limitations and our limited nature in the process of, and sometimes in advance of, looking within the self, first coming to neutrality (understanding "flaws" as limitations), and then, naturally, inevitably, finding love for the limitations, recognizing the asset each represents.
This is the gentle process of cultivating the willingness to see our own wholeness, and participate in truthful conversations with others who are trying to love us more and more exquisitely.
