Happy Family
I got home today after more than three weeks of travel.
This time was spent in dense, rich community experiences. I was, now that I think of it, possibly never alone on a property, and had very few hours spent in only my own company.
I was with people ALL the time. Not just with them, WITH them.
In the middle of this, I even had my first immersion with a client!
Once upon a time, I held stories about how much alone time I needed.
Once upon a time, I believed integration was a separate process from experiencing.
Now, I am able to spend many hours in the company of my loved ones without overwhelm or atrophy.
Now, I know experience is integration.
Now, I know the truth my body and behavior carry.
My beingness is the template for the happy family.
The happy family is CLOSE. Close like you want your village close. Dense. Gathered around you. You don't get "time away" from them. The point of your time is being with them.
This is possibly a foreign idea to some of you. I have a friend from another culture who thinks the unhappy nuclear family is the core wound of whiteness.
One insidious element of this wounding is the idea that I am a burden to those who love me, that those I love are a burden to me. We “need space” because presence is burdensome in this way.
With this as the uninvestigated premise, it seems risky to fill our homes with people. We might crave community, but we fear it as much as we crave it. We fear our incapability, what we know of the incapability of others.
The village is built, in part, on the fractal of the happy family, on the ability of each member of the village to network with other members in the tone and practices one learns growing up in the happy family.
There may be grief there
If you want to have had a happy family, start here and now with me.
If you want your family, your community, your village to be happier, start with a call with me. I might even come to your house.
If you want to someday have a happy family and you have no idea how, start here, start now, with me. That is what a long term relationship with me as your mentor is FOR. You learn love through how I love you. You learn how easy and sweet love can be, you cannot fail to create it everywhere else once you know the easy way.
Happy here is a meta-description. It doesn't mean constant emotional joy—it means constant calibration, collaboration, sensation, play, intimacy, interdependence, and most of all PEACE.
The happy family is the family at peace.
Peace is not "calm" experience.
Peace is cooperation with reality, through intimacy, throughout a network of humans.
It begins within one individual, and one individual is enough to infuse an entire willing crowd.
My love—please trust me—your crowds are SO willing.
You might not even see who I am talking about yet, but they are already willing and ready for this love, and for this love from you.
I have yet to find a crowd that doesn't enthusiastically jump on this bandwagon with me, when I bring it into a space.
You've heard about the crisis of loneliness, you've felt it in your own heart.
This crisis is, in truth, an action-potential for community.
Learn the skills of right relationship NOW.
The happy family is forming now.
Right relationship is the ultimate resource in the only economy that will sustain.
