Hard to Explain, Easy to Live

I addressed my relational practices because I noticed my relationships had a reliable trajectory of 3-6 months. Sometimes we dragged it out past a year, even, but the reality of the beingness, when I got honest about it, was NEVER actually of devotion.

There was the thrill of connecting, getting to know each other, defining the relationship.

Then there were however many months we could stand of hashing out expectations and disappointments in the relationship.

All the content of the relationship was about the relationship. My romantic relationships reliably devoured themselves, and they never became what partnership IS.

Partnership IS a collaboration that makes us more free.

Partnership IS a context for meeting the content of life.

Partnership is NOT a life, and when operating efficiently, it generates energy and uses very little—a partnership does not provide sufficient content in itself to keep us busy, unless we see it as constantly flawed.

There is a beingness to all of this, partnership is something I live into in my life, it is my way of being, it is a set of concrete real world practices which invite and invoke participation from closely aligned individuals. It is a way we be and become context exquisitely holding the content of life alongside one another.

With this understanding, living it day to day and moment to moment, it’s actually harder to define what of my close relationships *aren’t* partnerships. What is the difference between my lifelong friends and my partners, when I am free from meaningmaking around sex and utterly devoted to what is? When I no longer have the abstraction creating false distinctions, the lines blur.

It’s hard to explain, but life has never been easier to live.