I am the one to validate my behavior
I do not behave according to how I want others to perceive me.
Others' perception of me is not my business.
I seek only to refine myself to my own standards, and the way others receive me offers me clues to my own standards, but others' perceptions are based on others' standards.
I am the one to refine my standards and hold myself to my own standards.
The more I align with my own standards, the less concerned I am with others' perceptions of me.
Others who value the standards I hold are sure to find me when I am really living them, others who do not appreciate the standards I have chosen are not for me.
The world is vast and I desire intimate community. I desire to interact with the select few who love my unique beingness on this planet.
The more I accept myself, the more I am able to align with my own standard for myself. The more I align with my own standard for myself, the more I meet those who align with these standards.
When others inform me of how I am not meeting their standards, I simply learn more about their standards. I learn more about our common ground, and I decide whether I want to invest more in our common ground or allow the connection to atrophy for lack of common ground.
I do not adjust myself to others' standards, but I may become more selective about what of myself I offer to others according to what I learn about their standards.
Being selective about what of myself I offer others is a way that I respect others' boundaries. I am the one to approve of, receive of, and hold all of me. I am the one to curate what I serve to others according to the common ground of my beingness and their preferences.
I am the one to maintain connections according to compatibility.