Individualistic

"It just sounds so individualistic," she lamented.

I had just shared with her Village Principle Number 1: I Am The One

I only shared this title. And I could see her point.

How can centering on myself, my experience, and my behavior be the way of devotional service to my community?

I asked her, "What would it sound like if it were more collectivistic?"

She let it flow, riffing, "You’re gonna learn how to influence what you’re gonna get from your community. You will learn to influence people to vibrate around you. You will get a lot of enrollment. You will get respect and love. You will do it like a goddess or a queen, not in a messy way."

To me, this one seemed more individualistic. All about what I'm going to GET from my community. How they will bend to MY will, how I will receive more from them.

Whew.

Maybe if I sold this way I would sell more.

It's certainly the marketing strategy "they" have advised me to use time and time again.

I haven't been able to bring myself to do it.

When I noticed this, she agreed. That is more individualistic, to concern myself with what I'll be getting from my community.

I laid out a confusion I see often which felt related. I tell people "do what you want" and they say, "I can't do that, I wouldn't want to hurt anyone!"

And I blink at them.

Because the fact that they wouldn't want to hurt anyone is part of what they want.

When good people do what they want, they end up interconnected in service to other good people.

I mean good in a sense of integrity rather than moral rightness. Whatever the code is, those who uphold that code serve the others who uphold that code as part of that code. That's the whole point of any code.

We WANT deeply to be in service to others. We want to relate well, to show love, to share delightful experiences.

Yes, we all want to be loved. But if we focus on that, we are constantly extracting from the world, evaluating each situation as a transaction; what does it cost, what will I get?

The deeper truth is that we all want TO LOVE. Every moment spent in love is a moment well-spent—we don't consider asking what it cost.

We want to pour our love out on those we experience as worthy, those who uphold a code like we uphold, as well as those who are close to us via circumstance and genetics. We might even find we want to pour out love on the whole entire world.

My work is about nourishing the self.
My work is about bringing self to exquisite responsibility for exquisite experiences which honor one's curated code.
This is because I know what happens when humans are nourished and have defined their own code.

Nourished humans nourish humans.

It is EASY for a nourished being to nourish others. It is delightful to be in the presence of someone taking exquisite responsibility to craft exquisite experiences for themselves, because part of the exquisite experience is that everyone else is having a good time too.

I really trust nourished humans, so I nurture humans.

I nourish myself because when I am nourished I am nourishing.

I teach others to recognize and prioritize their nourishment because I trust them to give, network, create, and inspire when they do so.

One cannot do any of these things without receiving of them massively.

But I've only ever found for myself that thinking about what I'll receive enlivens my entitlement. Thinking of what I will or should receive lets me off the hook of personal responsibility for the events of proactive love which create the BACKFLOW of my receiving, as well as its redundancy. It's redundant because, having spent each moment in proactive love, I've been receiving all the while, and THEN it backflows too.

It would be sexier, undoubtedly, to make you every promise about how your village will nourish and feed you, support you and love you, how you will influence them and have them in your thrall.

But I'm here to get you intimate with the mess of life, the right here and now, because human life isn't always sexy, and that doesn't make it bad.

See for yourself how individualistic you find it, the premise that I am the one, on my newest LIVE masterclass, occurring twice in the last week of June.