It Has Come to My Attention

It has come to my attention that I may not be perfectly clear.

You might think I want you to drop monogamy.
You might think I want you to embrace "polyamory" (which is not even how I define my own style of open relating...)
You might think I want you to fuck more people.
You might think I judge you for fucking right away, or a lot, or a lot of people.
You might think I'm here to show you where you've been going about it all wrong.

Let me be clear: I am here to love you.

It's hard for you to imagine how I will love you, because it's better than you love yourself. Better in that it honors more of your truth and fullness. Better in that it knows the difference between love and fear. Better in that it bears no allegiance to abstractions of meaning made by adorable deluded human minds.

I offer reflections on life and love for myself. I hear they're helpful, and that's so sweet, but I write and share for ME, for the clarity and the accountability to state and hold myself to what I KNOW I am.

I love when this resonates.
I understand when it doesn't.

But I must be clear that I am not wishing anything at all for your life, circumstantially.

I must be clear that what I wish for YOUR life is truth, freedom, agency, agility, and most of all LOVE.

I wish for you to make your choices and FIERCELY agree with them, make them right, make them make sense to you, for you.

I wish for you to capitalize on the fullness of every experience, to wring the juice and lick it from your wrists, casually, automatically.

I am here to show you where you've been going about it all RIGHT—in this recognition, you can see any and every opportunity to patch a leak.

(Noticing and patching leaks is not my business at all, you're fucking great at that already. I WILL be supplying you with practical materials, tho.)

I love representing love that seems inaccessible or sure to be filled with drama, the way it can be easy, the way it's all around. I want this ease of connection for you, I want you to see it all around.

I don't care how that network of connection looks for you. I have seen it arrive in so many ways, I have delighted in the unique features of every one.

I love that my way seems insane to some people. I love the insanity of humanity, most of all the insanity of thinking it might be sane.

Whatever your way is, it's totally crazy!

Look at me, y'all! My way is totally crazy!

It turns out, no one has come for me except the ones who want to do it crazy like me!

It has come to my attention
you might need a reminder
there are no fucking rules to this game at all.

There's just
what feels right to your sacred body
what makes sense in your wise mind
and who you choose to be in this
one
wild and precious
life.