Keep It 100
Some would say that your relationship is guaranteed to include conflict, and conflict will require compromise.
Sure, if you design it that way.
What I have found truer is that every relationship operates in the zone of mutual desire, and every relationship also shows us the desires we have which are not shared.
Every relationship offers each of us an opportunity to lament the desires we have which our partner does NOT mutually share.
This is the source of the promised conflict, but I say we don't have to fight about this at all.
When we honor someone's sovereignty, we are more likely to choose someone compatible, someone with whom the zone of mutual desires represents a vast and satisfying territory.
We WANT them to pursue the nonmutual desires, we just don't want to be part of it!
The more we can celebrate ALL of what a lover wants, exercising our own sovereign distinctions, the more we can receive ALL of what we love of our lover, all their nourished ease, all their satiety, all their overflow.
Operating in 100% compatibility doesn’t mean spending 100% of your time together with a magical perfect fairyperson you can’t even quite imagine. It means enjoying 100% of the time you choose to spend together with a regular, imperfect human.
