Lacking Muscle
What if you walked up to a personal trainer and said to them "I have no glutes?"
Colloquially, they would understand (since you walked up to them) that you want to strengthen your glutes, have a dumptruck, serve some cake.
But what if when you said "I have no glutes," they took this literally, owned that the lack of this muscle and its installation is your problem and the only logical solution?
They roll out a trunk of prostheses and talk to you about surgery.
They have theories on growing muscles that do not yet exist, theories on how you can think the muscle into existence.
They promise that as soon as you have that muscle, all your strength will be accessible to you!
You have no glutes! If you can get glutes, you'll have everything you want!
Absurd. Yes. And far too often what's happening in the self-help world. The premise that you are lacking or flawed in some way, that something is missing and ought to be installed, thought up from scratch, is absurd every time.
You are whole now.
So whatever in you seems to be missing is simply weak and unrecognized. It needs acknowledgement, recognition, honor of its current capacity, and gradual attention and expression to grow strong and palpable.
You are not perceiving that part of you, but that does not mean it does not exist. Plenty of people live their lives without perception of their glutes, while all the time their glutes are working in some way for them.
When you come to me, we operate on a premise which recognizes your wholeness. We return as many times as we need to, patiently, to the understanding of your wholeness. We use every experience of lack to reveal what IS there to be recognized.
This is what it means to be in a process of integration, to cultivate integrity.
Welcome, parts.
Welcome, wholeness.