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If you're resistant to any feelings, you are engaged with manipulation.
What does it mean to be engaged with manipulation?
Engagement is relationship. It doesn't mean that you are necessarily manipulating others. You could be the one being manipulated. You could also be manipulating yourself, being manipulated by yourself. You could be experiencing manipulation when and where others are not *trying* to manipulate you. You could be limiting your emotional expression because you fear being manipulative to others.
Resistance to feelings is a form of scarcity. It's saying "I don't have enough capacity to feel this!" it's saying "there won't be love for me if I'm honest about how I feel!" it's saying "I have to act correctly so that I only make others feel the right things and don't make others feel the wrong things!"
Manipulation happens when we leverage this scarcity/fear to control ourselves or others. This is why manipulation does not work on someone who is oriented toward abundance/love. The lever is not present in intimacy, when I am in love with what is.
In manipulation, changes occur as a result of an event: the application of leverage.
In refinement, changes are guaranteed, always occurring, allowed, integrated. (This is passive language because it is a passive process!)
Relationship is emerging from connection in new ways all the time. In Devotional Partnership, we are much more interested in observing, understanding, and adapting to adore the changes as they take place than we are in influencing them.
We are much more interested in creating an environment friendly to the dynamic wholeness that is each of us than we are in producing a specific circumstance in any given moment.
