Mundane Integration
"How about I fold up these blankets?"
"Only do it if it would be to your comfort!"
"I have mundane integration practices. and tidying up is one of them."
This scene was at a retreat, after a ceremony.
I'm not special for this, it's in the culture, I've seen everyone contribute with delight.
That's partly how I know these are my people.
We only do it if it would be to our delight. We are consistently delighted to do it.
We've signed up for reasonable tasks, achievable goals, in a nurturing environment, and everyone knows what it does for the landscape within us when we serve the domestic machine.
And every one of us knows what it takes.
Those who signed up for reasonable tasks and achievable goals meet them with help to spare, this is a redundancy of sustainable community living, possible, and only possible, when we are nourished.
Like there are complete and incomplete electrical circuits, there are practices of community which are of integrity and practices of community which are not.
Communities of integrity have celebrations and smooth transitions and lines of contact, threads of connection intact.
Communities which lack integrity have explosions and fights and fissures, conflict resolution, and no-contact policies, and rightfully so.
Elements which lack integrity are a threat to elements which have integrity, the same way a flat tire is only a threat to the car if the rest of it is drivable. If the car can't or doesn't drive, the flat isn't a problem. If the car drives, the flat will wreak havoc till the car doesn't drive.
If we want a capable community, one that’s really going to go places, we need practices, principles, and patterns of integrity.
The Village Principles are about the principles of community which bring integrity and resonance to the whole village if even ONE person is practicing them. With one person practicing them, they become the most compelling choice for everyone in the community to enact, if compatibility is present.
The Village Principles cannot create compatibility where it isn’t, but they are the absolute easiest way to live into the fullness of whatever compatibility is there, and to quickly identify and recategorize whatever is incompatible. These principles will show you the one and only way to bring sustainable change to every relationship in your entire life—by taking FULL responsibility for your experience of it.
I promise, this is easier and sweeter than you might have ever imagined.
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