Nice to Meet Me

If you want to be fully met by a partner, you have to be willing to know yourself and to make corrections when you find dissonance between who you aim to be and who you are being.

Being met means you have to accept that you have blindspots, and that is, in part, WHY you have relationships in your life. Relationships are meant to serve us in our limitations and blind spots. That is the uncomfortable part of being met. We all dream of being met in the parts of us we see and like.

But what about being met in parts we're proud of successfully hiding, or parts we've never seen, or parts we judge and condemn? Can we stand to be reflected truthfully by a loved one in something WE OURSELVES find ugly?

If we can't, we call in partners who reflect the parts we think are ugly in ugly ways. The ugliness of the method preserves our ability to deny the truth of the reflection.

This feels like being unmet, but it's actually being met in our unwillingness to be fully met. It's being matched in our willingness to judge and condemn parts of ourselves.

When we commit to seeing and LOVING our entirety, we're able to learn how to see ourselves and seek reflections of our image which beautify and revere our limitations, and even what we may have always labeled "flaws."

We easily release those who find ugliness in our limitations, because we truly *accept* the non-negotiability of limitation. We are IN LOVE with our own limitations, which is what it means to be humble, and it is the gateway to the intimacy of being in love with all that is.