Out of the Relationship Box

The way I teach, the way of organically growing relationships, is the antidote to the abstraction of the relationship-box.

The relationship-box says it has to go a prescribed way, and asks that we all invest hard in an untested projection as soon as there’s someone here willing to join us in projection.

(In fact, the projection, as well as the projection-first method, HAS been tested—it reliably fails…)

The box has us shifting ourselves and our behaviors, sometimes beyond recognition, in order to fit a mold. The box claims our focus, narrowing our field of vision down to this one option because it seems like so much is available there.

In fact, what is truly available is ALL here any now. It is only YOU who can keep a wide enough frame of reference to see the gifts the universe is attempting to offer you in every moment of your existence.

Devotion, driven by intimacy, says “I am here for everything I love about this moment” and builds relationships based on the DELIGHT we experience in showing up over and over. These relationships are sustainable because they are comprised of the elements of life we want to repeat and continually refine over time. These are the events which become patterns based on the practice of “yes, thank you, something like this…”

Commitments emerge as a result of our DESIRE to continue engaging in here-and-now moments which exquisitely deliver on our preferences. There is no need whatsoever to secure a person’s promise that that will continue to pursue the thing that feels the very best to them.

I offer no promises because every here and now I show up to the best that life is offering me. I ask for no promises because, offering the best of my love, I am sure to secure the one(s) who love that love the most, who would simply choose it time and time again, out of anything the world might offer.