Personal Responsibility is for the Lazy

Personal responsibility seems like a lot of work.

You're telling me that I am responsible for every emotion I feel, full stop?

You're telling me that I have to do everything I want done, or cultivate an environment where others genuinely want to help me?

I have to account for the context I am being for others in every relationship?

It’s time to talk about how personal responsibility is actually a lot less work overall.

You're telling me that I'm NOT responsible for anyone else's feelings? You're telling me that there's nothing in the world I actually have to do for anyone else? You're telling me that I only have to do what I want to do, what I want done, and I can trust every other person with their own desires and fulfillment?

You're telling me that failure in pleasing others is guaranteed, that I might as well surrender my life's work?

It's a tough pill to swallow, but I maintain: this is good news for the lazy among us.

Personal responsibility is permission to divest from a hopeless imperative—that I might control the world to control my experience.

The full control available is within me, and even that is limited.

My love, if you are tired to the bone, try on personal responsibility—apply the phrase "I am the one." If it doesn't fit the scenario, you're free from that thing as a burden. Free to be you, however you want to be in the world.