Primal Delusion

"Men are biologically predisposed to spread their genes, and women are biologically predisposed to choose a mate who will stick around so that her babies will be safe!"

Having seen this perspective reiterated again and again on the internet to justify sad gender-based polarity teachings, toxic monogamy, and women's "natural" resentment of men, I asked some experts.

I asked my archaeologist friends "what does early settlement actually show us about gender roles in the tribe?"

They chuckled and said "well, basically you have women holding down the settlements, running the day-to-day, and men largely fucked off doing things of questionable utility to the settlements."

This idea that women needed a man to stick around so their babies would be safe outright ignores just PILES of evidence suggesting that women networked with OTHER WOMEN to provide for all the babies, and the way other children and mother nature, as well as the inclusion of children in daily tasks took care of much of the "child raising."

Only with the industrial revolution and the advent of the nuclear family did we finally truly destroy the health of women's social networks and the role they have always played in providing for children.

This is a culturally constructed deprivation field which skews our perspective wildly in this day and age, including what we are able to even imagine about how earlier humans lived.

The timeless technology of the village, however, is alive to this day, observable in some limited contexts, and innate in our bodies. We can express it in the modern world in a variety of ways. We also must be clear that our participation in the modern world puts us at odds with this technology, our ability to recognize it, and our safety to express it. The modern world is modern for the way it is able to ignore this technology, and reclaiming it will mean reshaping the world through how we interact with it and in it.

The Village Principles Masterclass is tomorrow at 11am PST! I hope to see you there.