Radical Personal Responsibility
My work does not and will not make sense to anyone who doesn't want to take and have and maintain radical personal responsibility.
Radical personal responsibility is not normal. It is radical. It's right there in the name.
You will not fit in. Anyone would say you have more of a right to be vindictive and punitive toward others. You will be at peace when most people argue you should still be at war, trying to win back peace.
You will be doing this life differently from most people. Most people will not understand, nor will they play by the rules.
It is PERSONAL responsibility. It's the responsibility that doesn't ask anyone else to play by the rules. It's the responsibility so exquisite, it's able to play by all its own rules and all of theirs, creating harmony all over the place without requiring two-sided understanding.
It is one-sided understanding so powerful, misunderstanding cannot survive.
And it is merely responsibility.
It is not goodness, or rightness, it is not moral character. It's a structure of honoring your own exacting value systems, commitments, and codes.
It is responsibility, the very most power you can claim over your life!
It is the clarity and integrity of how you allocate your power and your resources which enables you to live what you choose. It is operating within your locus of control to your own precise desires while honoring your specifications.
It is radical because it flies in the face of all you may have been taught about "how you should be."
It is radical because it asks that you pursue your own preference and delight, even as suffering remains in this cruel world.
It is radical because it dares to be at peace, when war has co-opted what it means to care, where grief is obfuscated by righteous outrage, never letting us near love's darkest and deepest pool.
It is radical because it takes damage without being the victim, harms without being the perpetrator, intercedes without rescuing, loving all the way. Radical personal responsibility knows it hurts because you are participating. (It is as simple as that, but that doesn't take the sting away.)
It is radical because it is intimate, because it is dangerous, because it is relentless, it will never let you off the hook.
Radical personal responsibility is the maximum freedom and the ultimate fetter.
It's radical because it is not for everyone.
If you want to join a radical community learning, practicing, and echoing personal responsibility in every relationship in their lives, get on a live group workshop with me this week or next week. You deserve to know the other weirdos.