Relationship Technology Lets Me Eat More Pineapple

I have the perfect way to cut a pineapple.

I never used to buy pineapples because I didn’t have a good way to cut them. I cut them how I’d seen them cut for canning or in fruit salads prepared by others, and they were always sectioned into too-large chunks that got plant fibers stuck in my teeth.

This is a practical example of the limitations of experience, and how relationship technology can make or break experiences of the same element in life.

Before I had the relationship technology of how to cut a pineapple, my relationship with eating pineapple was fraught. No matter how good it tasted, the overall experience was annoying.

Thanks to technology of exquisite relationship which accounts for the relationships of fiber and tastiness inside the fruit, the relationships of my teeth and taste buds, my knife and cutting board, I and others get to have an exquisite experience of eating pineapple.

The pineapple story is a perfect allegory for modern relating.

I had ripe pineapples, knives, cutting boards, the will to eat pineapple, an appreciation for its flavor, but I didn’t have the technological application of relationship among these resources that let me have the best possible experience of them.

I look at the relationships of my friends and acquaintances, and they have wonderful friends, some have found the exact perfect partner, have a wonderful, well-suited job, have sweet and intelligent kiddos, but their relationship technology is standing in the way of them experiencing the full value of these assets. Their ways of relating produce suffering in their relationships and prevent the flow of love. These ways create illusions of misalignment even in the best-fit of compatibility.

This is what motivates me. I don’t think these people are suffering all that much, I just know that they’re suffering unnecessarily, suffering a lack of information rather than a lack of resources. They are paying an opportunity cost they don’t even know about.

The people who attend my masterclasses are already living full and thriving lives. That’s why it’s astounding to me every time to hear how much my work impacts their experience of their lives.

They finally get to *experience* wealth that’s been there for them all along.

It’s not about helping or saving anyone, for me, it’s about putting out the information that lets people enjoy the life they’ve curated for themselves, the one they know already has everything they truly want.

The information about how to cut a pineapple has let me eat more pineapple. It has let me enjoy it, and friends enjoy it, and seeing me cut pineapple this way has changed others’ relationship to cutting pineapple so that they get more pineapple in their lives.

I want you to have more of that perfect partnership and better experiences of having it. I want you to have more of your friends’ involvement in your life. I want you to recognize, as so many have seen through working with me, that you actually *can* have a relationship with those family members you have only ever experienced as frustrating.

Creating community is not about the poverty of acquisition. It’s not about more, getting, finding, seeking.

Community is created and experienced by the wealth of distribution informed by relationship technology. It co-arises with precise application of attention, specifications of integrity for energy, time well-allocated. It’s a result of spending time, energy, and attention guided strictly by a self-chosen value system.

The ways I saw pineapples cut by *literally everyone* in my life and larger culture were alien to the way I enjoy pineapples. The way I saw relationships lived by *literally everyone* in life and culture were alien to the way I enjoy community and connection.

It doesn’t make the other way bad, it just makes the point that what “everyone’s doing” might be no help at all in terms of living the life that *I want to live.*