See the Practice
One of the most transformative moments in my life was when it landed for me that I was in a practice of fighting for what I wanted in partnership.
Honoring the FULLNESS of a practice is the only way to take full responsibility.
Before this moment, I thought that my practice was a process—I thought I was fighting for what I wanted, and I believed what I wanted could be won. When I honored the fullness of this practice, I was able to see what this process was really creating and how I was assembling all the materials around me.
In my practice of fighting for what I wanted, I assembled a ring, an opponent, and an audience. The relationship was a battleground. My partner was an opponent who had to lose for me to win. I presented my case to my friends and family so they would take my side, validate my righteousness and my deserving of the W.
The fighting-for-what-I-want practice is NOT a practice that is in any way associated with receiving or having what I want. This is the lie that I believed which stopped me from seeing the fullness of this practice.
All I knew how to do in that moment, in that context, was ask for, demand, lack, want, wish, and fight for what I wanted. I did not recognize within me, until after that moment, what my processes and practices were around receiving or having the things I did receive and have, so I hadn't applied them to this context in place of my fight.
Landing an understanding of the fullnesses of their practices is one of the ways that my work serves my clients. We claim and recognize all power and every practice in its fullness, and reorganization naturally flows from that stance of clarity.
