Small Change

When I find that I want to ask for different behavior from another person, I look to where and how I can position myself so that I can never experience that behavior again from that person without ever speaking to them about it.

If it's extreme enough that I want to enact control on another human being, it is extreme enough to completely eliminate it from my life.

This doesn't mean we never have a conversation, it means that I do not rely on a conversation to EVER produce the experience I am looking for.

I create the experience I desire through the circumstances I show up for and the standards to which I show up.