Surrender to Structure
I put it on my calendar immediately, and I don't think about it again. I encounter it when it is happening now. My calendar is only exactly what I will do in a day, the rest is in the hands of the flow. My calendar shifts under my eyes, but I feel only delight, pure relaxation, because NOW is the only time my calendar applies to me.
I have released my resentment of what fills my calendar, because over the last ten years I have claimed a reality in which every structure I interact with is deeply in service to me.
This is a result and a requirement of Opt-In. If it has to be done, I opt-in with joy. I do not act from obligation, I make a choice for myself. The toll invoices that used to fill me with rage and resentment have become fond memories of the trip I was on when I crossed that bridge. The car registration is my freedom to drive! I spend that $300 like I'm buying myself something indulgent--because I am.
This week I filled in a calendar with what my typical week looks like.
That means I wrote down what *already consistently happens.*
I iterated on this three times within 24 hours, making hand-drawn copies of this schedule with fun markers, having the time of my life.
As I was writing it the first time, I realized that with a couple simple tweaks, I can have two "weekends" every week, taking Wednesday and most of Thursday off and resuming zoom calls Thursday evening.
My creation is in the hands of the flow, and that means large swaths of open time in my schedule. Trying to create has never ever worked for me. Living life compels me to create.
The structure on the schedule is my accountability to others, a structure which serves my life experience as well as the life experience of those I steward. This is masculine structure (an event that occurs at a time) in service to feminine life experience (joining together to share that time); this is Union.
The flow on the schedule represents trust in my accountability to myself via Opt-In. I have made a business of what I can't help but do, and I put faith in myself to use my "free time" in service of what I know makes me feel free. This is feminine life experience appreciating structure which serves her--I am organically motivated to distribute my resources into a system which serves me. Appreciation means investing in a way which increases the value of my experience, the structure, and my experience of the structure. This is Union.
I grew up in a high-control, emotionally intense and manipulative situation. I have had to reclaim my relationship to EVERY aspect of life to live in prosperity and enact the consciousness of wealth.
Control destroyed my natural Opt-In to the actions of daily life, and that forced me to understand the value of opt-in. It forced me to contend with the way oppositionality is a hindrance to freedom, a replacement for the positive desire we feel when we are truly sovereign and free.
As I found my own Opt-In, everything felt more aligned, more right. I understood that these actions, even (especially) the repetitive actions, the "endless work" of maintaining a home, "adulting," etc. are THE POINT of living. They are part of the entirety of the here and now.
This alignment created efficiency in my energetic system, which meant I had more energy to delightfully bring to the "chores" of life, and to my loved ones. It ended all fights about housework and chores, which I previously understood to be a guaranteed part of life.
I ended the fight within me, and it left me with energy to spoil my loved ones with care and tend to my home and my business.
Peace is a resource to community, personal peace is what makes a thriving community. Peace is what the Village Principles are all about.
