Trust in Me
Any way a man does not trust himself is a way he advertises untrustworthiness to the feminine in women and the world.
His own feminine experience does not trust his masculine provision of nourishment, containment of intention, or practices of fulfillment.
Wise women move away from aspects of a man he himself does not trust. This is why a man may be beloved in groups of people and cannot get a date with a woman—he does not trust himself in the dating context, and wise women avoid this context and this aspect of him, refusing to share space with it.
Women who practice relational suffering move toward aspects of a man which he himself does not trust. They try to shore up the trust, try to create trustworthiness, participate in cycles of harm and repair. They try to show a man how to become trustworthy in the ways he is not, rather than respecting the perfection of his limitations.
I cannot speak of trustworthiness without understanding this is a term with specifications. Is my table trustworthy? It probably wouldn't hold up a hot tub. I couldn't build a fire on it, or use it very long under water.
But my table is good for my office implements. It is trustworthy to hold all I put in the drawer. It will stand still as I use it, and stay the same height, and keep being flat. It will not make my bed for me, nor reflect my complaints about this failing.
Wise men go within and shore up their own trust, and their own trustworthiness, their structural integrity as it serves their experience of life. They advertise with their whole being that they trust themselves and trust their process of being trustworthy.
Wise women walk with nuanced discernment, moving exclusively toward what does have integrity. They live their love boldly, knowing trust could never be a zero-sum game. They trust themselves to selectively choose what offers them a delightful experience, of the everything the world contains. They honor the advertised specifications and place their trust well within them.
