Unknowable

"That's not a judgment, that's just the truth."

Is it a judgment or is it the truth?

Is the truth, ultimately, also a judgment, a perception?

Here's where I have decided to draw the line between truth and judgment.

Are you suggesting that an unknowable variable is known?

That's where judgment ends intimacy. Intimacy is curious about reality, in touch with the unknowable elements of the other.

The other person's motivations.
The other person's desires.
The other person's needs.
The other person's experiences.
These are UNKNOWABLE.

Even as someone tells me what is happening for them, I know that it is still largely unknowable to both of us, and also certainly unconveyable.

When I maintain that I do not know what is unknowable, I am creating the curiosity intimacy requires to thrive.