Unneeded

Helping someone because they need help is a doomed proposition every time.

"Needing it" is the worst reason to receive help, because help you get because you need it stops when need stops, yet cooperation and interdependence are always necessary. Therefore, when "needing it" is the prerequisite to interdependence, the need must persist for the interdependence to persist.

If you really want to "help" someone, see the perfection of their situation exactly as it is, and be their actual friend. Show up because you like them and you want to. Trust them to figure it out how they do. Believe in their resourcefulness and their ability to decide for themselves and bear the consequences of those decisions.

Don't let your presence in someone's life depend upon or be fueled by their need.

Let it be that their need reveals an opening where more of your love is welcome, and you put it there because you're always looking for ways and means to love on them.

Let it be that you'd buy any of your friends groceries just as a treat.

Let it be that they are wonderful and worthy and it's a privilege to look in their eyes, even through the tears.

Maybe they need you, maybe they don't.

You deserve to show up because you can't help it.

This is a teaching on Village Principle Number 3: They are the Point. Receive all the sacred principles of peaceful village life on the Village Principles Masterclass, this Wednesday and next Tuesday. View in your local time and sign up here.