You Have the Right to Remain Silent
you really don't have to answer that
PSA: you have zero obligation to answer a question coming from someone that doesn't feel curious about you and respectful of your response.
—if it feels like someone wants a specific answer from you rather than what is true for you from your perspective
—if it feels like they want an answer to some question other than they're asking
—if it feels like they're using your answers to their questions as fuel for their own emotional needs (especially if it seems like they're fueling emotional outburst/dumping on you)
—if their questions seem to have a directionality or an accusatory quality
You do not have to answer. You may set a boundary and end the conversation.
You may also invite an inquiry into the other person's emotional state and hold space for their needs.
Your vulnerable truth deserves to be poured into exquisitely respectful spaces, received with love and acceptance and understanding and reverence and gratitude. Your sovereign experience is valid and it matters, and only you can take responsibility for it.
Your vulnerable truth does not need to respond to interrogation or accusation. Instead, you can see demands and entitlements as evidence of the other person's limitations, and choose whether you are available to serve them or trust them to their own experience.