I appreciate what you offer.... somewhat dense I think I heard you say once.
But you trigger me as well.... and this share I'm responding to....the way I am understanding it or lack of....illustrates that by the smacking of an absence of desire to complete a project your partners may want to achieve.
I see great balance or I might say integration in your sharings but still feel an undertone of undue self-centeredness.
I am centered in myself, and yes, that is where I recommend others operate from as well. Centering the self in others is the major problem preventing smooth interdependence. If I center someone else, then someone else has to center me, and then we have codependency, where we NEED each other. And no one can ever get it totally right for someone else, so this is a system with lots of grief, resentment, and wasted energy.
When we are all centered within ourselves, we are able to generously participate in others' lives, as well as stay grounded as relationships transition.
Also this post is about FIRST DATES, not about partnership. It's about doing the task together, seeing how that feels, not about who benefits from the accomplished task.
I appreciate what you offer.... somewhat dense I think I heard you say once.
But you trigger me as well.... and this share I'm responding to....the way I am understanding it or lack of....illustrates that by the smacking of an absence of desire to complete a project your partners may want to achieve.
I see great balance or I might say integration in your sharings but still feel an undertone of undue self-centeredness.
I am centered in myself, and yes, that is where I recommend others operate from as well. Centering the self in others is the major problem preventing smooth interdependence. If I center someone else, then someone else has to center me, and then we have codependency, where we NEED each other. And no one can ever get it totally right for someone else, so this is a system with lots of grief, resentment, and wasted energy.
When we are all centered within ourselves, we are able to generously participate in others' lives, as well as stay grounded as relationships transition.
Also this post is about FIRST DATES, not about partnership. It's about doing the task together, seeing how that feels, not about who benefits from the accomplished task.