So many of us are taught as children that we have to control another person’s behaviour in order to be safe. When we don’t learn that we have other options for connection, we can mistakenly believe that tracking every little hurt and talking about it is the only way to have connection. We can be so convinced of this that we don’t realise how we are destroying connection by trying to preserve it. There is a new way, and that is learning to identify the feeling of connection and trusting that what we feel is real. Thanks for this post Hannah.
So many of us are taught as children that we have to control another person’s behaviour in order to be safe. When we don’t learn that we have other options for connection, we can mistakenly believe that tracking every little hurt and talking about it is the only way to have connection. We can be so convinced of this that we don’t realise how we are destroying connection by trying to preserve it. There is a new way, and that is learning to identify the feeling of connection and trusting that what we feel is real. Thanks for this post Hannah.